It is not only about penetration; men get sexually aroused extremely fast and can lose the erection really fast too. But a woman, she takes her time to get aroused, and when she does get aroused, she stays aroused for a long time. I read some amazing tips on ‘how to truly satisfy a woman’ from one of my favorite blogs and I feel I should share this with someone.
First, you have to understand that a woman’s biggest sex organ is her brain. Learn to excite her emotions and mind, and her body will follow. Turn her on first with her imagination – then get physical. Women do indeed love an incredible, mind-blowing moment. On a higher (advanced) level, it means she’s capable of having (and you giving) orgasms without any physical stimulation whatsoever.
You can do this by talking dirty to her. But you have to keep in mind that ‘dirty talk is an art’. Hint at what you plan to do to her in bed. She’ll be thinking all day about how good she’s going to feel when she’s in your arms (or pinned down underneath them) later that night!
Take the lead. Women are more independent now than ever. They are parents, students, and career women – roles that require them to lead themselves and others. When she is with a man, a woman wants and needs to be able to surrender to him, and be feminine. In other words, she wants you to take the lead! For example, escort her to the bedroom. Take her hand and slide just where you want it. Be adventurous, open, and honest, and she will do the same!
Women are dials, men are switches. Men are usually ready to get it on at the drop of a dime. Women, on the other hand, need to be turned on – not simply flipped on like a light switch. Think of the knob that controls the volume of your hi-def audio system – that’s women. How fast or slow you turn the dial is very important.
“A great lover knows when the time’s right”. He can sense when she’s ready to get things going. Remember, the anticipation of something is often better than actually getting it – for men and women. Go too fast … and she’ll think you’re a pervert. Go too slow … and she’ll think you’re a coward.
Make her pleasure, your pleasure. So many guys grow up watching porn and think that’s what great sex is. Porn is made for men to get off to, and is focused on them – which is the least likely way to get her to orgasm. It’s also a surefire way to become a horrible lover!
Play her body like an instrument. Conduct her pleasure like a symphony, making her climax in erotic harmony. To make her pleasure your priority, replace the “what’s in it for me?” mentality with the “I love seeing her face and hearing her voice when I’m making her feel this good” mentality. Think of new ways to bring her pure bliss and make her climax to new heights!
Be present. If you’re in your head, you’ll miss the moment, and you won’t enjoy yourself or her. Just Let Go and Be. If you’re worried about what she’ll say tomorrow or if she’s going to laugh at your “size”, you won’t to be doing her or yourself any good. Remember, if you expect her to follow your lead, you need to be confident. So get out of your head and into your body!
The only downside is that you’ll probably totally ruin it for the next guy. Oh well!